I love all things erotic. Human sexuality fascinates me. Various fantasies, physical attraction, emotional reactions…these thigns fascinate me, which is why I write erotica. I thiinkit’s probably why I’ve remained a waitress/bartender for so long as well - I get to watch and observe people when they think they’re not being “observed”. *wink*
I also publish a free monthly online magazine titled Secret Thoughts. It’s full of free reads, articels and essays about anything erotic. I have to admit though, It seems to not be as busy as I thought it would be, and I wonder if I’m alone in my fascination with this area?
Romance is wonderful, I dream of having more romance in my life, but it’s hard to find on your own. Now, I’m not normally someone who dwells on what they don’t have, but last night, it occured to me that I’ll be 37 years old soon. And I’ve still never been in love. I talk about this in the ezine and on my own blog sometimes, but hey, more opinions can’t hurt right?
I’ve been through stages in my life where I did not want a relationship at all, times when I was open to one, but not looking for one, times when I was lonely and activel looking for one… and times when I’ve despaired that I’d ever finding one. Right now, I’m not sure how/what I feel, but… I do wonder if it’ll ever happen.
So, my question is…. because I’ve found sexuality to be so much more a part of my thoughts and life than romance, does that mean I’ll never find romance or love? Now I’m serious. I’ve heard all the cliches and I’ve even told them to myself. Stop looking and it’ll happen. or There’s someone out there for everyone or You have to stop trying so hard as well as You have to try harder, be more open. I’m not looking for cliches…and I know this is a hard question for a bunch of readers and writers or romance novels as we all want to believe in HEA.
But truly … do you believe that everyone finds somebody?
I would like to believe in the HEA. That for most of us there is that soul mate. Its that connection that I love most about romance novels. I might not get it in my real life but reading the fantasy is very compelling.
Comment by cathy — September 17, 2006 @ 8:07 pm
I agree Cathy, I love the thought of it. And I hope it happens for all of us.
Comment by Sasha — September 17, 2006 @ 8:10 pm
I tend to believe it. However, I also have friends who have not wanted a relationship but prefer to stay single for various reasons. It was an active choice for them.
Comment by Little Lamb Lost — September 17, 2006 @ 10:19 pm
Yes, I believe everyone finds their certain someone.
I was extremely fortunate to find my Mr. Right early in life. Then there’s someone like my sister who had been divorced and single for a decade. We seriously thought she might be single for the rest of her life when about a year ago she met a man who she now calls her soulmate…and she’s 43. She’s never been so happy.
All body parts crossed you meet your certain someone very, very soon.
Comment by Julia Templeton — September 18, 2006 @ 2:33 am
LLL ~ There are times I LOVE being single. ANd times I long for someone of my own. Someone to just “be” with.
Julia ~. 43. YAY so I have hope.
Thank You.
Comment by Sasha — September 18, 2006 @ 3:33 am
I didn’t meet the love of my life until I was 36, and It was worth the wait!
I know from experience it’s better to be alone than to be with someone you feel lonely with. I’ve also always felt you need to be single for when the right one comes along 
I had one girlfriend who missed out on the right guy, because she couldn’t stand to be alone and was with the wrong guy. You’re doing just fine. It will happen. One day you’ll spy him from the corner of your eye, and with any luck he’ll be reading one of your books. 
Comment by Saskia Walker — September 18, 2006 @ 3:57 am
i thought i would never fine my love. but after three tryies love finaly found me instead of me finding it. im finaly happy in my 30’s
Comment by janet — September 18, 2006 @ 11:26 am
opps did not finish it, im finaly happy in my 30’s then i ever was in my 20’s
Comment by janet — September 18, 2006 @ 11:27 am
Good topic, babe. I think it’s better to wait then to settle - 100% positive of that. No one wants a lifetime of mediocre when they can have a decade or even just a eyar of absolutely fabulous.
You’re an amazing woman, and I hope the man of your dreams finds you soon - I think he’s been looking for you.
Comment by Beth Williamson — September 18, 2006 @ 1:03 pm
The best “finding love” story I know of is an acquaintance of mine who recently found love for the FIRST time in his life in his sixties with the most amazing woman. They are like teenagers together, so in love are they and, yes, they were recently married. They met through an online service–the one that matches personalities/outlooks. He dated a few women and then found the love of his life. From what I’ve seen anyway…a person has to first decide that, yes, he or she does want to live the lifestyle of a couple rather than a single. After that decision is firmly made, finding the right one is a question of looking and when people look, it seems to me they do find. Because of my friend’s experience, I’ve got to suggest the online hookup as a possible way to search!
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Cleo Coyle
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Comment by Cleo — September 18, 2006 @ 7:07 pm
I believe we all have “soul mateS”…but that doesn’t neccesarily mean “husband” or even “lovers”. I’m married…I consider my hubby a soul mate…but I also consider my best friend one…its kinda that ‘click’ and you know someone is right for you. ya know?
Comment by Alyssa Brooks — September 18, 2006 @ 9:17 pm
It think everyone has a someone. And I don’t think age is a factor. Whether you twenty or sixty, your someone comes along when they are meant to come along.
Comment by Emma Petersen — September 20, 2006 @ 1:40 pm