I will admit that I am one of those "the universe will provide," "visualize your dream," "whatever you believe in will come to pass" kind of people. I trade off my BCBG stilettos for Birkenstocks, I pluck my eyebrows but may not style my hair, I try to wear make-up that’s mineral-based, unless I’m in need of serious coverage and break out the MAC. So, do I believe in soul mates? Well, seeing how I write women’s contemporary romance, I think the answer is pretty obvious.

Still, I just read an article on Yahoo! Personals about how, if you’re single, you should probe your date’s soul before things get out of control (i.e. you get married). Well, okay. It makes good sense and everything but it just sounds so, I don’t know, cheesy and premeditated. What happened to spontaneity? What happened to going with your gut? I know the divorce rate is terrible, something like 50% of all marriages, so these questions probably serve a good purpose, but like many of you, I write romance because, well, I love a happy ending.

Let’s put some of those soul date questions to the test:

• What would it take to make you happy?
• If you only had 6 months to live, what would you do?
• Where did the human race come from?
• What is the meaning of life?

The author of the article recommends not firing off the questions in rapid succession. Good idea. There are about ten more questions if you’re having a great time and want more: just click here.

So, Berkley Babes, let’s do a little soul-sharing. Pick a question from above and bare your soul …